Turn That Down, It’s Allowed in Here!

As I mentioned here 2014 will be the year of bloggers, for bloggers. Influenced by this, and dedicated to Adam at (and Long Awkward Pause), please enjoy the following. 

I’ve tried to think of a reason or connection to feature ole Chowderhead for some time now. His tag line is “Grab a cup. Five bucks at the Door.” I played around with the idea of writing about some party story from my past. I almost considered Adam for the post I did featuring Not a Punk Rocker, but I think I made the right decision for that one. Once I figured out that the majority of my “Party Stories” are too embarrassing to list here I was stuck for a moment. When Chowderhead finally wrote a post about the perception of what we should or shouldn’t do, it came to me. I also have this sort of feeling towards a word I hear a lot, but we’ll get to that in a minute. I don’t think Adam gives himself enough credit when it comes to the Spiritual – Philosophical – Preachy – Advice type stuff he does. I usually agree with what he has to offer, and think he should offer a bit more of it. Don’t you think so?

Rock On! \m/

Grab a Cup. Five Bucks at the Door.

Anyway, You’re Allowed to Continue…

After being baptized into The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints I started to receive several questions and comments, usually containing the word “allowed” within them. Before taking the lessons and becoming a Member I would combat these sort of questions and comments in a negative way, mainly because I was a punk and didn’t really care. I would often say something to the effect of “I’m free, white and twenty-one. I can do whatever I want.” Nowadays this seems like a sorta rude thing to say, so I try to be more humble and humane when answering others on topics related to my beliefs and standards.

Some of the questions I’ve gotten include;

  • I didn’t think you were allowed to have caffeine? (When seeing me drink a coke)
  • I didn’t think members were allowed to be Masons? (When seeing my symbol (ring) on my hand)
  • You’re not allowed to drink, right? (General question while out with the Missionaries)
  • You’re not allowed to have sex? I’m out! (From a family member who shall not be named)
  • How come you can’t have coffee or tea? (General question while out with the Missionaries)

and so on and so forth…

First off, one of the main teachings of the Church is that of our Free Agency, our freedom to choose the right or not. This idea is very central to our happiness when we think of eternity. Our Heavenly Father gave us this free agency because he loves us and wants us to be happy. Without free agency we couldn’t know happiness because we wouldn’t know what to compare it to. It’s impossible to know pleasure if you don’t know what pain is. This also means that we can in fact do whatever we want.

I don’t abstain from tobacco, alcohol, drugs, coffee, tea and sex** because the Church has told me to do so. I abstain from these things because I choose to. I don’t see them as rules and guidelines, at least not in the temporal sense. They are a sort of Spiritual guidelines I suppose. The thing is though, I can have a cup of coffee if I want. I can smoke a cigarette, or partake of some jello-shots. No person or thing is going to stop me. I might get a sort of guilt trip from members or family, but for the most part this will be out of love, not disappointment. I shouldn’t have need to worry about this though, for I choose to abstain, and here is why.

I truly believe in the Bible and in the Book of Mormon. I truly believe that they are the words of and from our Heavenly Father. I know that my Heavenly Father wants me to be happy, and in turn I want to do whatever I can to make Him happy as well. I’ve now lived both sides of the coin, so to speak. I know what I need to do to procure the most possible happy moments in my life, and that means abstaining from the aforementioned things. Now, I know there are a few people thinking, and possibly saying out loud to themselves “Hey, I do all (or some) of those things. I’m still a good person though!” Let me address you for a second.

You are absolutely right!

When I speak about these things I’m talking about myself. The way I live my life, and the things I choose to do or not do is a reflection of me, not you. I’m not judging you, I am judging myself. Now, I may make a suggestion to you about something you maybe shouldn’t (sorry for “shoulding” in this post Adam) do, but this isn’t because I think you’re a bad person…or that you’re going to Hell because of it. I know what’s helped me become the happiest I’ve ever been and I want to share it. That’s the only reason. If you don’t want to take my advice, fine. I’ll still be here if you need me, and I’m NOT going to say “I told you so”.

 13) Forbearing one another, and forgiving one another, if any man have a quarrel against any: even as Christ forgave you, so also do ye. 14) And above all these things put on charity***, which is the bond of perfectness. ~ Colossians 3: 13-14


*Featured Image Credit: StevRayBro (and NBC)

**I will elaborate my answers to these questions in a later post

***Here “Charity” refers to the Pure Love of Christ

Are there any terms like “Should” or “Allowed” that you don’t like? Have you any general questions about the Church for me?

DFW area Bloggers – Don’t forget about our Mini-Meet-Up! Get your “tickets” here.

Enhanced by Zemanta

7 thoughts on “Turn That Down, It’s Allowed in Here!

  1. You caught me off guard with this. Thanks for the awesome write up, Brojo. That was really cool of you. I also learned today that Jell-O shots are not something we have in common 😉
    I should go Bach to work now. (Classical music joke)

  2. “If you don’t want to take my advice, fine. I’ll still be here if you need me”—I admire your nonjudgmental attitude toward others who don’t share your same beliefs and practices. If only there were more individuals like that, this world would be a much more peaceful place. Cliche but true.

  3. I didn’t think members were allowed to be Masons?

    I’m actually surprised some would ask you that… the more feverishly well-read make lots of comparisons between Freemasonry rites and our temple observances.

    How come you can’t have coffee or tea?

    Actually, the one I hated hearing was, “You can’t have caffeine, because you’re a Mormon” (said by a personal trainer that was wound WAY too tight). I found I just couldn’t tolerate caffeine at all– it disrupted my sleep regardless of the hour of the morning I had it.

    There were a few other things that I found personally were not good choices for me. Alcohol + me = scary bad times. Definitely the hard way to learn for sure, but now I guess I can say it’s very much a personal choice.

You Know You Want to Say Something...

Please log in using one of these methods to post your comment: Logo

You are commenting using your account. Log Out / Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out / Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out / Change )

Google+ photo

You are commenting using your Google+ account. Log Out / Change )

Connecting to %s